"Saying yes is a favorite habit of the woman who always feels too busy . . . We have a thousand ways of saying yes, and lots of reasons for doing so. For one thing,
yes gets people off our backs.
It makes us feel omnipotent.
It boosts our self-esteem (temporarily).
It keeps us from being bored.
It saves us from having to be purposeful about what we choose to do.
And it flatters our ego because we're needed and viewed as capable.
"We may not be bored, but we're doing something uninteresting to us, and we're doing it without conviction.
We beat ourselves up because we didn't have the courage to say no.
Or maybe we just got uncomfortable saying no and wanted to try a little yes on for size."
Linda Andersen
The Too Busy Book
Waterbrook Press 2004
p. 143
Why do YOU say yes?
EverGrowing,
Lonnie
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