TOUCH DEPRIVATION

"Ashley Montagu says that the use of touch and physical closeness may be the most important way to communicate to ill and aged persons that they are still important as human beings. Touch deprivation (emphasis mine) is a largely ignored yet major cause of depression among the elderly in our society, whether they live independently, in a retirement community, in an assisted living complex or skilled nursing facility."

Dawn Nelson
From The Heart Through The Hands
Findhorn Press  2001
p. 27


I am so grateful for a single friend who told me how important hugs are for single women. I'm afraid it's something we married folks, or even dating couples take for granted. We all need touch. 

Once in a while my daughter uses lotion to give me a foot or hand massage. My husband strokes my hair. Both make me feel comforted, relaxed, and loved.

Our grandchildren walk in the door and give us hugs. Let the potatoes burn! I want my hugs! 

My husband, Ray, tells others how our son hugged us--in public, even though he seemed to be in rebellion. Treasured memories for both of us.

I remember when hugging became a part of my life. It was odd--uncomfortable. I was a counselor at a summer camp. Every Saturday boasted of good-bye hugs--dozens of them. No one went home, hugless. From that time, I began hugging friends and family members. At first, the guys resisted, but . . . I'd hate to lose any of them without having ever hugged them.

There are many ministries or expressions of love that you may not feel qualified for, but here's one I think we can all participate in: hugs, touching a hand or a shoulder, kiss on the cheek . . . 

Any other ideas? What touches are precious to you?

Loved and Growing,
Lonnie 

BLAMING LESS

"Let's say I interviewed ten people asking each the same question--'Do you trust God?'--and each answered, 'Yes, I trust God,' but nine out of ten actually did not trust Him. How would I find out which one of the ragamuffins was telling the truth?

I would video tape each of the ten lives for a month and then, after watching the videos, pass judgment using this criterion: the person with an abiding spirit of gratitude is the one who trusts God."

Brennan Manning
Ruthless Trust
HarperSanFranciso   2006
p.24

I'm not that one person, yet; but I'm getting closer. I'm not thanking God in ALL things, as Paul tells us to do. I'm not rejoicing in all kinds of trials, as James encourages. But . . . I think I'm blaming God less. Isn't that a little closer to trusting? 

EverGrowing,
Lonnie